I don’t know what’s going on. I’m really confused right now.
my and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 months now. He’s wonderful but things started changing recently though. It’s quieter now, he doesn’t talk as much. My jokes don’t make him laugh anymore. All we did recently was making out and it annoys me.
He logged in to Facebook on my computer today and forgot to log out. I’m not stalking him but it just so happened that i saw this: on his profile page, I saw pictures of him and these girls whom i know and they went out. They also had a sleepover party. Sounds like they had a lot of fun. I’m just shocked at the fact that he never told me about this.
I don’t know how to respond to him now. If I ignore his next calls and texts, would that be wise? The funny thing is not a lot of people know we are dating. And we always go out alone, never in groups. I just don’t know how to go on now. It’s so darn confusing. Is there another way to approach this situation? how do i make myself more valuable to him? The saying “you don’t know what you have until it’s gone” is running through my head. Please give me some advice and what you think of this situation.
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The first thing you need to do is INFORM. Let him know that you are feeling neglected, and that you want to know why things have so suddenly cooled off for him. Tell him that you don’t expect him to be Romeo for you 24/7, but also explain that it is more than a little odd for his behavior to make such strange turn. Ask if something is bothering him, or if a new development in his life has distracted him. This will probably lead you to something you can work with, as there is no other explanation for his behavior, unless he is just quick to burn out on the passion.
Second, do not ignore his texts or calls. This will more than likely start a fight, and he’ll use your negligence of his attempts of communication as an excuse to be acting so cold. Never become dishonorable or dirty in how you approach the relationship and its standing.
If you are concerned about why your guys’ relationship is so under the radar, ASK HIM. The key thing here, and with every other relationship in the world is communication. If he doesn’t know that he has been too subtle with his announcement of your status together, he’ll never change his behavior if no one informs him of what he is doing.
Confront him. Maybe nothing happened but he didn’t want to tell you about the party because he was afraid you would acuse him of cheating. There is the possibility that something happened so perhaps you should talk to a few other people that were at this party. And the sleep over with other girls deff should not be going on. I would let him know that that is NOT ok.
You should spill your feelings to him and suggest that you guys should go out with some friends or go to a party. Find new jokes. If you can see the pictures on his profile, then please go ahead to ask. If he doesn’t tell you about or like your suggestions then he’s not for you. You’re better off without him. Don’t worry, there’s better fish out in the sea! : )
Mmmm sounds like he’s losing interest, I’m sorry to say.
And quite honestly that’s a total jerk move.
I say talk it through, if he doesn’t seem convincing offer a temporary break-up. “I think we need some time apart” type thing
or just break-up entirely
It’s nothing you’re doing wrong, so don’t feel like you need to make yourself more valuable
TALK TO THE BOY! Girls always seem to have the instinct of working behind our backs. Talking to a man straight-up is the sexiest, most attractive thing you can do and nobody will mistake the results of the conversation. Talking to him without beating around the bush will show you are more mature and interesting than most girls ever become in their entire lives.
There is also the saying that comes to mind when you see a snake run from it! He is truly not worth your time. If he were proud enough of you, he should be proud enough to let everyone know you are his girlfriend. H e is probably, sadly, using you for his own pleasure.Get out as soon as possible. You deserve someone who really likes you!
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well, i’ve been in a relationship with a my girl for over a year and from what my excperience says, confront him head on
make him understand why your bothered and ask him about it, if he gets defencive, you know somethins up.
Don’t confront him, but let him know “Hey, I saw some interesting pictures on your facebook the other day.” And see if he’s willing to explain them.
Also, do some group dates! Let people know you’re together. (They’re fun too!)
the only thing you can do is try to talk to him about things.
maybe its equally confusing for him as well?
please do not ask him about those pictures, he will feel that you don’t trust him.
Ask him what is going on. I think he’s been leading you on. He should have told you about this. If you don’t like his answer, then I’d say to move on, and yes, ignore him.
maybe he just got bored? lol i dont know. i would suggest a good talk. if you dont feel any better about the relationship after the talk, i would suggest you leave him
I just read the main question, but I know I can give my best advice with just that. If the relationship is confusing or is not going smooth, then end it! duh!
You really need to talk to him about everything. It might not solve this,but it will make you both feel better about whatever is going on.
well you should ask him if there is anything on his mind that he might want to talk about to you and if he asks why cause he might just say because you haven’t exactly been the same so i was wondering if something happened
ask the girls that he had the sleep over with and then see what he says about there answer
maybe you should dump him before he dumps you
but dont act jelous that never works and how old are you??
Forget about him he’s a jerk, don’t chase after him you deserve much better
he’s got something troubleing him…its all he can think about. He probbly doesn’t know how to tell you…
just leave him, you deserve better, he probs not interested in the relationship again
Talk 2 him about it
he has let go of your mind and snagged your body…DUMP HIM.
i suggest to just say okaayyy whats going on?? and tell him that his page was up and you werent snooping!((:
trust the man, talk to him about it casually
talk to him casually ,dont get mad hear what he has to say about all ur complains even if u guys break up u would understand why and it might just not be like that and ur being paranoid
It sounds like he isn’t into it anymore. I would end things and move on. When I get sick of a girl I’m dating I start to feel impatient with her and stop doing the little things for her because it just feels like a chore. Playing hard to get usually turns guys off, we’re more likely to move on because we’re frustrated then keep chasing. And don’t worry about making yourself more valuable to him, just worry about the next guy who appreciates you for who you are already.
he might be thinking about how to break something to you so break the ice for him just ask if he is wanting a serious relationship because you dont wanna have him regret you later , and you dont want any regrets either right? so let him know this chances are he doesnt want to hurt you so he is showing some feeling allways remember the one at the center of a crowd making the most noise is the insecure one insecure ones cheat beleive me i was this jerk the trust worthy one is the quiet calm collected one that speaks only when needed ….
How long ago did the party happen? If it was before you, talk to him about it. Communicate, not argue. ask him. If these girls slept with him and are still around as friends to him, you must establish that you in no way approve of his having sleepover’s with girls who are friends. Don’t ignore his calls. He will wonder why. Communicate with him about it first. make sure he knows your stance. He will admire you for having the respect for yourself.
First when did he have a sleep over with other girls? Was you two together? And you need much more than physical attraction to keep a relationship going. You could just chalk it up to fun while it lasted and part ways. I think if he doesn’t appreciate you now, this early on then no matter what you do isn’t going to be enough to hold his interests. Maybe you two just are not that compatible.
um why the hell are you thinking “you dont know wht you have until its gone” ?????? you should bail because a guy that cheats isnt interested in any sort of functional relationship… and yes, hanging out with other chicks… AT A SLEEPOVER…is cheating… if it was harmless then he would have told you about it. He doesnt sound trustworthy and you can do better. period. end of story. Its only 3 months in and things already are confusing and sucky? drop him before you actually start to care because it will only get worse from here.
this is a very confusing situation. You wonder if he left the Facebook page open to tell you something, or if he forgot to close it by mistake. Both are unhealthy acts of passive-aggressive nature. Neither of these situations sounds healthy for you. Especially when you asked how you could make yourself “more valuable” to him.
You need to sit him down, tell him what you saw, and ask him what his intention was. He was wrong no matter what his purpose was, so you have to make it clear to him either of these intentions is unacceptable. You need to make your purpose clear to yourself ahead of time so you don’t give into a situation that destroys your self-esteem. No man is worth that. There are billions of them out there. If this one isn’t right, don’t torture yourself over him. Go out find a better one. Make each relationship you have better than the last one. It’s the road to a successful life.
okay ONE..he’s obviously using you..
he doesnt like you..im sorry to say.
and i really dont think you can make urself valuable to him
cuz hes a jerk.
so instead of ignoring his calls and texts or whatever, then just plain out tell him how u feel.
i dont want you to be a girl who begs a guy for attention.
i think those girls are lame and i hope ur not one of them.
just get over him.
he doesnt want people to know u guys are dating.
tht sends a message sayin ILL JUST HAV SEX WITH HER BECUZ SHE”LL PROLLY LET ME. NO ONE HAS TO KNOW ABOUT HER. SHE CAN BE MY SIDELINE HO.
do u really wanna be used like tht?