First of all, I am asking this here for 2 reasons. 1) I’m a little conflicted and not trusting my judgement. 2) I’d like to hear ideas & input from you guys – totally uninterested, unbiased, mature opinions & ideas.
I am pretty sure the relationship I am in is about to end. We met online and have been dating since August 07. At Christmas, told him I loved him and he said he loved me and had for awhile, but hadn’t said it cause he wasn’t sure how I felt. Since then, it’s gone downhill. Some trust issues came up (mine) because he still has his profile unchanged on the dating site and still visited it often. Got the feeling he was still “advertising” whether he meant to or not. Voiced my concerns, which created some doubts about our feelings, our trust, etc. There are more details, but you can see how this is going.
I am still deeply in love with this guy. I do believe he has been faithful so far as I have been. His feelings for me have lessened. (He told a mutual acquaintance)
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Hi Lon:
I think it all boils down to how much you BOTH want to make this relationship work. And, from what you wrote, it sounds like your BF may not be as willing to try and work at saving this relationship as you are.
I would suggest you be honest and tell your BF how you are feeling and that you really want to make this relationship work, BUT you must ask, and you have to make him feel totally free to tell you exactly how he feels without repercussions, AND ask him whether or not he wants to work at making this relationship last. In a situation like this, prepare for the worst, and hope for the best. I have to be honest and tell you that it doesn’t look good, but you never know.
If he is willing to make this relationship work, I would strongly suggest seeking couples counseling. If not, then I guess the answer is clear . . . You both need to move on as amicably as possible.
Good luck, and remember — if this relationship doesn’t work out, it was just meant to be. You WILL find someone you are more compatible with.
Gay, straight or bi, a guy is a guy. Flirting comes with the territory. Accept the fact that this is a part of his idea of fun and understand that he loves you and has shown you by being faithful to you. Two weeks without your lover can seem like a very long time, you get lonely. Rather than go out and cruise the bars, he gets on line and flirts. Big deal.
im not gay or any of that but all i can say is what ever happens happens sorry i could not halp like u wanted
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you said yourself you want to give it your all and make it work, i think you should keep going and try, babey its just a little rough patch your going through, everybody has their doubts in relationships, but if you find out that he has or did cheat on you, you should end it because if he cheats on you once he wont stop till he cant do it anymore and that wont be untill you end it!
i think the answer is in your question already.. you’re heading to the end…………..
i would like to add that.. don’t hold on to something that’s no longer there.. you said it was really good before it got bad.. well now it’s bad.. you can’t simply have the good back! have a talk with your partner, see things the way he sees them,, you might reach a common ground,,, you never know….
just don’t fight for something that WAS there,, and no longer is… be real about it..