Hi everybody, would you please give me some advice?
(Sorry for the lengthy question, hope you won’t mind)
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and due to work and financial reasons we won’t be able to get together for several months.
We try to keep in touch through email and messenger with webcam and voice chat, almost everyday but lately he comes online like once or twice a week and won’t call or text me. He says he’s busy, that his pc is broken, connection is acting up and what not.
I started to look around old profiles from email accounts he supposedly didn’t used any more. It turned out that he was pretty active in his Yahoo 360 and other sorts of social networks. As all activities are registered with date and time, I noticed he logged in when he claimed to have no access to the Internet. To make things worst, almost all his contacts were women and all his comments had a high flirtatious vibe.
I confronted him and he apologized for being away, but for some reason he couldn’t admit that sometimes he preferred to go to such sites instead of talking to me. Even though I showed him direct links to some examples of it, he kept saying “I’m sorry that was weeks/months ago, I don’t remember it”, etc.
He swears he loves me and a couple of times I’ve tried to break up he insists until he convinces me to get back. I still love him, however I can’t trust him and now I’m some kind of net police that keeps checking on his websites to see if he has any updates, for which he most likely has an incredible explanation. And what if he has more accounts I’m not aware of?
I don’t know what to say to help him to come clean of what he really feels about me. Will he admit what’s going on or should I just walk away if he’s not convincing enough?
Thanks in advance!
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Hiii (:
Ahh, yes, long distance relationships are by far the hardest. && it sounds to me like he’s taking advantage of the distance.
For one thing, everytime a guy realizes that he’s been caught red-handed they say things like, “Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean it, I don’t remember” So that right there is a guilty plea.
And the whole, “My cpu is messed-up and bad connection” thing is proved wrong because he is obviously signing on daily to other web sites.
I believe right now he’s just having fun, being a “swinger” if you will, but when he comes back home to you in afew months he’ll be faithful to your relationship and deny ever being unfaithful or lying in general.
And he also believes that if he denys it and plays his cards right, you’ll give in and stay with him.
Not much of a boyfriend; you deserve much better!
I’d confront him about it one last time, and if things don’t change I’d move on and find someone who will be true to you and you deserve nothing less.
Best of luck!
Hope this helps ya! (:
- Jessie♥
Basically, he’s not telling the truth and he doesn’t have to. If he says he doesn’t know, and you drop it at that and take him back, then he wins. You have to decide if you want to live with him not being honest with you and possibly cheating on you, or break up and find an honest person. Sounds like you’ll be miserable if you stay with you and I do know you’ll never trust him.