i keep looking at my ex’s profiles (myspace/facebook) a lot. i’m trying to stay busy, but i keep doing it a lot. i work at home on some days and that definitely doesn’t help. i miss him so much and i keep wanting to know how he’s doing, but told him it was over cause he was kind of a jerk. i know i probably shouldn’t be with him, but it’s so hard to stop wanting to see him online cause i miss him. part of me wants to hear from him, but i know that maybe i just need to stay busy. i guess my questions are: should i not be checking his profiles online at all? limit it? and for how long? and how do i not stay so focused on it if i have to work from home? working from home makes it so hard not to keep checking..i miss him so much, but it was definitely not healthy. i haven’t called (and won’t), but i kinda feel like maybe seeing him online is pretty bad too cause it’s making me miss him. i also am scared that if i keep checking his profiles, i might see someone new he’s dating and that would totally crush me. today sucks. any thoughts?? anything helps. thanks
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You sound like you really miss him and if you do, then maybe you should consider talking with him and come to a sort of compromise that could make it work.
Best friends are there for a reason than to just get into trouble with.
Break-ups are never easy. Even if they’re total butts, you can still miss them because you know that you’re single and by yourself. However, you need to fight in order to stop hurting.
First, admit to yourself loud and clear that you miss him. Understand why. –It’s not a bad thing to miss them. That doesn’t make you weak or lonely, it just means that you’re feeling. It’s only bad to put this pressure on yourself to the point where it consumes your life.
Think about why you broke up with him in the first place. Usually, our feelings get mixed up with reality so you should also consider how far it would go if you do get back together. For example, I “could” still go and love my ex, but the fact that he put absolutely no effort into it the first time really discourages the idea of being with him again.
It’s not good when you put yourself through this, because it CAN consume a person and you’ll never be able to find someone new.
Do not keep looking on his myspace/facebook. Apart of breaking up is to get them out of your life.
Staying busy is good.
But try doing things you LOVE to do, not things you have to do such as work.
Try writing out your feelings in a journal. Talk and hang out with your friends.
Break ups are hard, everyone can understand that.
My only advice is to do things for yourself.
That’s the way to fight it.
And over time, it gets better. You realize that there’s still many reasons to be happy and still many reasons to love yourself.
Most of all, there’s reasons to have fun.
By the way, about him possibly having another date….
It’s hard to deal with that your ex has found someone else. It’s alright to be scared of being compared to.
But don’t let it drag you down.
You have to know that you were put here to have more than just this man.
That’s the whole purpose behind exploring the world
Knowing that you will find someone else will make it better too.
If he does, then calmly take that in.
That proves that he’s over you. And you should be on your way too.
If you feel jealousy, then admit it to yourself. (That’s really the best way to get over it).
And if you’re sad, find someone to cry on
Good luck
if u guys broke or u broked up wit him its for a reason unless does things have changed dont waste ur time lookin at somthing that for some reason did not make it to ur future eat urself a big bowl of icecream n jst have will power n control over urself n stop looking plus if hes not looking for u theres no point in it hes clearly moved on dont wait for sumthing that walked away from u. . .(best answer) check out minehttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…