There’s a girl I went to school with that I have a crush on but I never asked her out because she had a boyfriend. We got along really well and if she wasn’t dating him I am almost certain she would have said yes if I asked her out. From what I could tell whenever we were talking, her body language was good and she would flirt with me. However, since I graduated I lost touch with her.
The last time I saw her was over a year ago at a party (about 2 years after I graduated) and we hugged and briefly talked, which was really nice but it was hard to have a full conversation in such a loud setting. She seemed excited to see me (and the same for me to see her) and we exchanged phone numbers. Sadly, I never called her because I didn’t know if she was still with her boyfriend or not (I found out had been broken up way after).
Now, I want to muster up the courage to call her and ask her out (it’s scary but you don’t get rewarded unless you take a risk), but I have two problems:
1) I don’t know if she has boyfriend and
2) What do I say to her if I phone her? Wouldn’t it seem weird if I just called her out of the blue just to chit-chat after so long?
I don’t think she would mind but it would awkward if I don’t give her a proper reason for why I’m phoning her. It might seem like I’m calling just to ask her out.
There may be two other options I might be open to though. Is sending her a text message a bad way to break the ice (I’m against this but if there are any good suggestions on how to go about this please let me know)? She has Face-book but I don’t and I really don’t plan on signing up for it… but it would be an innocent-looking way to connect with her (but it is so much work and time to maintain a profile and I have been an avid Face-book basher to all my friends).
Anyways, thanks for reading this and I appreciate any advice you can give.
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she got a boyfriend man, befriend her first as if your just friends until they break out you can take your turn.
yea use facebook but u know just go with the flow…be all natural and cool about it u dont need to think this so thoroughly….to be honest i think u should just have guts to do what u think is right and do whatever u need to do in order to get her thats just me tho….
Blah, blah, blah. Any girl would love it if you just went up to her grabbed her head and started making love to her mouth while loudly proclaiming you love for her. Do it!
Ask her if she wants to hang out. Then just chill with her and then after a while just look at her eyes and ask her out. You have to take a risk like you said buddy.
i didn’t read it.
but everytime i see these “should i ask her out” things i get frustrated
yes ask her out…
I think that you should just talk to her and ask her questions and then ask her out after you talk to her for a little while. Don’t make it like one or two times, I’m talking MONTHS and months of talking. I think that if a guy phoned me and asked me these things that i would want him to call me every so often then ask to have lunch or something
Simply put: Just call.
whats the worst that can happen?
i mean seriously. it shouldnt be weird if you just called out of the blue
just say something along the lines of “hey! we havent talked in a while, i was just [insert random thing here] and it totally reminded me of you! so i decided to just call and say hi.” talk with her a little. Become friends and get to know her a little more since you seem a little rusty about her info. be patient dude. things will work out in time =]
I suggest you call her up and maybe you have a high school year book? You can say you were looking through it and saw her picture and remembered that she gave you her number and you wanted to call her to find out if she wanted to go grab something to eat this weekend. That way it would look coincidental. From that hanging out setting, you can see if she has a boyfriend or not and if she doesn’t see if you feel comfortable in asking her out on a real date or if you still want to hang out as friends again.
Good luck
my opinion is to go for the face book, you might know from her profile if she has a boyfriend or not, beside other things, and some how later you can get together. later you can just stop signing in or close your account.
it appears that she made it clear for you that you are accepted, but you never made a move, so i think everything will run smoothly after your first move and she’ll make it easy for you too. hopefully.
be gentle.
do something, sooner the better.
I think you should phone her. Texting can be less trustworthy compared to listening to a person’s actual voice. Ask if she wants to catch up on old times at a cafe or lounge, whatever atmosphere is more comfortable, and just start chatting. Lead your way into asking her out from there! Hey, even if she says she already has a boyfriend, there’s not as much harm done as you think. Consider that SHE’S been flirting with YOU a little too! It isn’t like she never assumed you had some interest in her, right? Just go ahead and try it!
You’re thinking too much about this. Just call her and talk to her for a while. Ask her what she’s been up to lately and just talk for a bit. Try to think of questions to ask her that will get her to reveal whether she’s dating anybody at the moment. Don’t ask too many questions about her love life. That will tell her right away what you’re planning to do. Don’t make it obvious that you want to ask her out. When you call her just say “I was just thinking about you today and I was just calling to see what you’ve been up to. We haven’t spoken in so long!” Texting her sounds like a good idea too but calling her is even better. Don’t do the profile thing because then it’ll seem like you only made the profile to talk to her, unless you add tons of people and make it look like you’ve had that profile for a while. Good luck.