My boyfriend and I have been together officially for 5 months but have dated for 8 months. We are currently around 25 and 26 years old. He has a 19 year old ex-girlfriend who has created big problems in our relationship.
Two years ago they were friends but turned into lovers (intimatly and were in love). Unfortunatly, the relationship ended because he realizes they were both at different stages of life. Shortly after they broke up, my boyfriend and I met after a month of their break up. They were still friends but once in a while she’ll tell him she loves him and misses him. He tolerates this and still kept her as friend. I struggled with it for a while until New Year’s Eve she called at 2 a.m. I was next to him and he flips his phone and states “Oh…it’s Sunny!” He then went back to bed. When he realized how it affected me he told her not to keep in touch with for the meantime. She called and yelled at him and was really upset. He assured me that it was over.
Two weeks ago my boyfriend bumped into her at the university. They talked and she had a boyfriend. But within a few days she calls and told my boyfriend she wants to break up with her boyfriend. My boyfriend even gave her advices but went back on his words. I was very upset and told him how I felt. In front of me he called her and ended the friendship, deleted the number, and assured me how much he loved me and he doesn’t want to see me cry. After he did that, she wrote him a message on facebook stating, “Well…fine! Be a looser! You’re not invited my graduation, family gatherings, any special of that sort. Plus, good luck with conquoring your fears! I can’t believe you’ve became a jerk and especially someone I love as much as my family.” It was last night my boyfriend finally realized why it affected me so much because his ex wasn’t over him and expected them to be together. He deleted her profile and assured me it’s over for real.
I trust my boyfriend. I need to know if me being upset was alright. I mean I didnt’ want to make it hard but I’ve been so patient with them being friends and understood their past. I do have the right to express my feelings, right? To make sure he understood me? Sometimes I feel his feelings still linger around her. However, I need to really get over it and try to make things better for him and me. I love him so much but I’m always worried what this ex would do to him if I’m not next to him. I told my boyfriend if she was a true friend, she would have respected him and his decisions and be happy that he is happy. But she came back at him in a rude way. What can I do to get over this whole drama? I’m always afraid she will do something to jeopardize my relationship with him.
